No Prince Charming - You've Got To Be Kidding Me
Posted: Monday, August 17, 2009
by Rose DesRochers
Today's Writing Community
It all started with, Once upon a time there lived a noble gentleman who had a little girl." Stop right there and rewind! Before we get to the end of this story, where two people go off and live a fairy tale life, I have to tell you that there is no Prince Charming.
The sooner that we ladies wake up and realize that, the better life will be.
What you see in movies and read in books isn't what real relationships are about.
The perfect man isn't out there. Do you want to know why he isn't out there? Because, he doesn't exist! In my opinion, there is no such thing as perfect. Like every woman, each man has his flaws, his weaknesses, and his strengths. How can a woman expect a perfect man, when we as women are not perfect?
In the movie, The Perfect Man" Holly Hamilton (played by Hillary Duff) creates the illusion of "the perfect man" for her single mother, Jean Hamilton (played by Heather Locklear) who believes that she needs a man to be complete. Along the way Holly and Jean both learn that life isn't really all that simple. Of course the movie is flawed because she winds up with a guy in the end. Go figure!
But my point in all of this is: Ladies true happiness comes from within and while you are busy searching for that perfect man; you could be missing out on someone very special.
There may be such a thing as true love, but you won't find it kissing frogs. He wont be placing a glass slipper on your foot and he won't say the right words and do the right things all the time.
Quit dreaming about fairy tales and start living your life. As one learns to see ones self more clearly, she will see others more clearly. Don't be influenced by images and illusion.
Life's funny that way. We spend so much time searching for a Prince. We have to ask ourselves if we are looking for love while blindfolded? A successful relationship is hard work and it takes commitment from both parties to make it last a lifetime. Remember that we all have faults and we all have short comings. Sometimes you just have to meet somewhere in the middle.
There may be no such thing as a true "Prince Charming" and life isn't quite like you dreamed as a child, but there certainly may be a man out there that can be the next best thing.
Ok, start the story.
"Once upon a time there lived a noble gentleman who had a little girl."
I bet you can't wait to see the ending.
Rose DesRochers is he administrator of Today's Writing Community http://www.todayswriting.com, a supportive online writing community for men and women over 18. Visit her blog at Rose DesRochers- World outside my window.
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Top-level comments on this article: (6 total)Hi Rose,
I'm shattered! No Prince Charming? No happily ever after? Only in fairy tales? So, no Santa Claus either?
I'm so happy this made the front page and understand why. Women need this message. I say, "Amen" to it! They just as well compare believing in Santa Claus to believing in Prince Charming. We both know how absurd that is after a certain age. My friends' 6 year old already knows it's "daddy."
I agree "there certainly may be a man out there that can be the next best thing" and have a few friends who have found him.
Thanks for this! It is a very necessary message, in my humble opinion. I just read somewhere, "An opinion should be the result of thought, not a substitute for it."
Take special care,
AvisWell I wouldn't say there is no Santa. Santa lives in our hearts. :) I do understand what your saying and am glad you enjoyed my piece of writing.
Way to go Rose! You're right. There are no 'perfect' men , no perfect women either! I know some women who are looking for what they think is the perfect man. I tell them it's not about the car, it's about the guy driving the car. Time to get real, look past the exterior and see people for who they really are, faults and all. Good article.
Up until I met my partner I always thought soulmates were meant to agree with everything you said like everything you did and be perfect. But now I know a soul mate is the one who pushes you past your fears and challenges to confront those things you would rather hide from. A soul mate gives you the courage to be you and allows you the space to find you. They are not perfect but perfect is simply a human perception not a reality.
Hi Rose.You are so right on so many levels. But I will say this, when you find that "perfect" someone who you want to spend your life with, there is no harm in calling him your "Prince Charming." In this one regard, I do think that Prince Charming exists. I'm am exceedingly fortunate to have found mine, warts and all. And he accepts my warts as well. I am well and truly blessed.Thanks for sharing your insights,DianneDianne you said "when you find that "perfect" someone." That's the thing though. In my opinion no one is perfect. Everyone has faults.Hi Rose.And I know that better than most ... I'm full of them. That's why I put perfect in quotes. I think that there is a very good chance that anyone can finally find someone with whom they can mesh. Someone that fits just well enough that love can bloom and companionship flourish. Sometimes it doesn't happen until you're 70 years old. But that is better than never. And I do get it that you were telling woman not to pin their hopes on a fantasy. I've a friend who does just that and so doesn't always see the reality in the situation. It's lead to some grief for this friend. Oh and men are not immune to doing the very same thing.Dianne
A great article for the very young at heart who may possibly be looking for a prince charming and/or a princess charming but we writers of wisdom do know better. Thanks for sharing!Sadly pretty woman sometimes even the older at hearts need a wake up call. "Grin"
Dear Rose - I'm the closest thing to the perfect man. A brilliant writer, a seer and mystic, a sentimentalist, with pear-shaped blue eyes, all perched on 230 pounds of muscle (look at the statue of David in the Louvre - That's me).I'm humble too.J.S.John, you my friend are a little too modest. That's ok! Knowing you, I'll let your humor slide. :)
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